While going through some of my things, I found this poem that I liked.  I don’t know who the author is, but I thought this poem is very revealing:

Comes The Dawn

After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul.
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
and company isn’t security.
and you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises.

After a while you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open,
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much.

So, you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone else to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure,
that you really are strong
that you really do have worth.
And you learn and learn
with every good-bye you learn.